I cook breakfast and dinner for my kids most days of the week and every other weekend. We just went to the state fair last night and had a blast getting nauseous (me) by riding grown-up rides for the first time (them).

Tell me how I have victimized them? Is it when I pick them up from school every day? Or is it when I take them for ice cream every Friday for a week well done?

I have the freedom to work my own hours while their mom works her butt off in a typical 9–5. They see her as a successful woman… is that traumatic for them? Should I have made her stay at home?

Or… and I mean this the in the most respectful way… Are you putting your own father’s failures on me?

My kids are just fine. Judge me, not them. Their mom does just fine during after hours. She takes the weekend hours when I’m at the busiest at my business and does a fantastic job.

Identify what is YOUR trauma, and refrain from projecting that on anyone else’s life and situation. Nobody benefits from your projections.